My Motherhood Journey

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It is a beautiful Monday, and as I am enjoying the view of the ocean from my veranda, I cannot think of a better way to launch “My Beautiful Mondays” feature than by sharing some of the amazing steps in my motherhood journey which began almost two years ago – or three, if you include the pregnancy.baby

Many of you have asked me how motherhood has changed and enriched my life, but I realize that I have not talked as much about it as I should have, considering that my wonderful little daughter Nielsine, who will soon celebrate her two years birthday, plays such a central role in my life.
As a working mom I have to balance my professional activities with my family life, which as you can imagine is not always easy. This time I have actually managed to take a lot of time off from my otherwise very busy schedule to spend time with my daughter in our home at the coast. And I feel so blessed to have been able to be with her 24 hours a day for the past two weeks.

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As a first time mom it is beautiful to see how much she has grown and how every day brings new awesome developments. The months have been flying and it seems like only yesterday that she took her first couple of steps across our living room floor, and now she is already running so fast on the beach that it is hard to keep up with her. And now when she is seriously beginning to talk, our relationship is reaching new heights.

Her biological father has never played any major role in my or her life, and I am convinced that he will probably never be in our life either, And I am at peace with that. I thank God for bringing me and him together, because through him, I got the greatest gift life could ever give. But some relationships are not ment to be, and no woman should ever hate herself if she ever had to walk away.

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My little Princess fills my life so completely and I am happy to have a career and a flexible work style which allows me to spend quality time with her as often as I do. At the age of 2 she is already a little person with a strong personality, sometimes cheeky but always happy.
During my quiet moments I love to dwell on some of my favourite motherhood experiences, and my thoughts often go back to the day she was born. The delivery went fairly smoothly (thank God for epidurals) but the 30 seconds it took the doctor to place her in my loving arms seemed like an eternity. She immediately latched on to my breast, and then there were only her and me in the world, and our bond was complete.
Breastfeeding her is such a wonderful way to be together, which we both enjoy enormously, and sometimes I wonder if we will ever be prepared to give it up. Of course she is now more and more dependent on formula and cow milk, but she still asks for “matiti” every day, and I am only too happy to oblige.

Locking her hair which I did one year ago, was my choice, and she is happy to look like Mama. Not surprisingly she wants to be like me, a real fashionista who loves her outfits and smiles at herself in the mirror. A real copy cat she is, and often wears my bangles and necklaces and is proud to have her nails painted !

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Sometimes people ask me how I feel about exposing her on social media, and of course it is something I think about often, and I carefully weigh what can be shared and what not. I am definitely not giving intimate details about her and our life together. But she is such a big and important part of my life and always will be, that it is hard to leave her out of what I post on the Internet, putting her a bit in the limelight allows me to share what we are passionate about.
Of course she may eventually grow up to feel uncomfortable about too much attention and if that will be the case, it is easy to shut the door and let her enjoy all the privacy she wants. Just like she should feel free to cut off her locs, if at some point she wants to try different hair styles.
I realize that although motherhood lasts a lifetime, the time will come, sooner than I expect, maybe, when she wants to express her individuality. And I look forward to her being my closest friend, which is how a perfect motherhood journey should develop.

And yes, I would want to get married and have more children one day. But I have learnt to leave it all in God’s hands. Right now I am enjoying a beautiful daughter and a blossoming career.
Let me end by wishing you all a beautiful Monday. Mine just got even more beautiful when I woke up to discover that I have been nominate for not only one but TWO Bake awards: “Best Fashion/Beauty/Hair/Style Blog” and “Kenyan Blog of the Year”.  I still cannot believe it. Thank you God ! and thank you all for nominating me !!

The voting site is open already: www.blogawards.co.ke/vote. let’s get voting !

I could go on and on about my motherhood journey, but if you have any questions. Drop a line on the comment box below.

Love,
Silvia

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  • I love this! I love how honest you are and, quite frankly, the peek into your “other” life-away from the fabulous stylist-fashion blogger- is so refreshing!

    I will vote, vote, vote!

    • Stylebysilvia

      I thought my readers would like that. thank you for reading and for voting….

  • Betto

    aaaaaaaaaaawww. . Thanks Silvia . . Felt so good reading that and yes marriage will come in Gods time. . All the best!

    • Stylebysilvia

      Amen…. asante

  • Mimi

    *wipes a tear away* Awww, Sylvia, this is the cutest post ever! My ovaries were shrieking with each matching outfit picture and at the end it left me wanting nothing more than a little mini me immediately! 🙂 Though considering the 9+ months I’d need to get one I better brace myself for a long wait.
    Also love your attitude towards the biological dad, not that Nielsine will miss him much with an awesome mama like you!
    Also really really loving Beautiful Mondays! Definitely bookmarking right before I head off to vote for you in the BAKE Awards.
    http://www.mimisotherside.blogspot.com

    • Stylebysilvia

      You WILL get a ‘mini you’ one day…. all in God’s time. Thank you for passing by and for your votes….

  • Wacuka

    Ooh Silvia you are such an inspiration and you make me want to be a mum. But I guess in God’s time it will happen for me too. I love how you you’ve managed to stay open minded and put your trust in God especially when it comes to matters of relationships.
    Congrats for the nomination!All the best.

    • Stylebysilvia

      This little one is a handfull it’s difficult to date. But there ain’t no rush.

  • Larine

    This is the best post you have done so far *my opinion* .I have always wondered about Nielsine’s dad mmmhhh his loss he doesn’t know what he is missing.Thank you so much you are such an inspiration.Congrats on the nomination and you are winning.Heading there to vote ASAP

    • Stylebysilvia

      Thank you for voting Larine.
      I am content with my choices and I bet he is too. Everybody is happy, no hard feelings. Life’s too short….

  • This is such a great post. I love how you opened up to your readers. Its so refreshing from the usual outfit posts. Only a strong woman is able to share her experience and be comfortable with it. I’m so happy for your two nominations. Definitely voting

    http://kareysdiary.com/2015/03/february-outfit-recap

    xx

    • Stylebysilvia

      This is my life and all I can do is celebrate the past.
      Thank you for voting xx

  • i keep erasing my comments, this post is beautiful (makes my heart beat stronger)… i’ll spoil it if i keep on writing…
    #voted 🙂

    http://www.wanjiruwangethe.me.ke

    • Stylebysilvia

      Awwwwww. That made me smile

  • carolkim

    This is a beautiful post Silvia thank you for sharing…..God bless you greatly….. Have loved this statement….”But some relationships are not meant to be, and no woman should ever hate herself if she ever had to walk away”. Priceless

    • Stylebysilvia

      Glad you appreciate that. … thank you for stopping by

  • TheReelRhee

    such a beautiful post. Makes me want to be a mother 🙂
    so much independence and acceptance oozing from the “no woman should ever hate herself..” and I respect you for that.-Inspired is the word. voting till the very end! GO YOU!!!!!!!
    xx

    http://www.thereelrhee.com

    • Stylebysilvia

      Spoken from the heart. ☺
      THANK YOU! For your votes!!!

  • The Lord’s favour is definitely with you and your little angel. such a beautiful post!!!
    Congrats on the nominations…voting 🙂

    snyambura.wordpress.com

    • Stylebysilvia

      So glad you like it. Thank you and God bless you too Nyambura

  • carolle

    wow….she is so lucky to have you….love this post.

    • Stylebysilvia

      Asante

  • Just voted for you Silvia, you rock the style world!!

    http://remmygirl.com/

    • Stylebysilvia

      Thank you. Let me check out your blog

  • Ida Achieng

    Silvia this post is beautiful. And especially for me because I have started this journey too, it couldn’t have come at a better time, thank you! I once read that ‘Motherhood is the most sacred, humbling and highest role ever assumed by mankind’, now that am in the pipeline, all i feel is blessed and highly favoured.
    Congratulations on your nominations and all the best.

    • Stylebysilvia

      Congratulations! What a blessing. I hope you enjoy it every step of the way

  • Naomi Noni

    Beautiful post….

  • Winnie George

    This post is heart warming

  • I love the post. You both look so beautiful. Have voted for you and I hope you win

    http://www.fraternalsworld.blogspot.com

  • Diana Ratemo

    You and your daughter share such a unique bond, and the way you look at her just melts my heart!! You make motherhood look epic.

    http://dianaratemo.com/

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